Posts tagged ‘culture’

March 29, 2012

Dementia

Dear Diary,

My grandmother suffers from early stage dementia and it is only since my last visit that I have begun to understand the cultural conditions which stir her awful behaviour of a wicked grandmother-in-law.

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March 20, 2012

Cover Me In Plastic

It’s been some time since I walked into a house where everything was covered in plastic, so, visiting a family friend the other day threw me right back to my childhood.

The carpet entering the front door had that central studded plastic runner that would keep the center strip clean and the carpet around the edges darken with age. I remember my parents putting this in our house and it was awful to walk on. We would walk on the edges to avoid the plastic so that we could feel the soft carpet under our feet.

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March 20, 2012

Delhi Photo Diary

Here are some snaps I took while driving around Delhi, some are funny and some not so…

Bruce Lee would be proud:

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Would you let your kids stick out of the sunroof?  Can you see the younger child’s head sticking out?

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March 13, 2012

Desert Island Race Row

Desert Island Discs programme on Radio 4 was at the centre of a huge race row as veteran Jewish comedian Jackie Mason implied that racism didn’t exist in today’s society.

He told host Kirsty Young: ‘I wouldn’t say the Jews or the blacks today are suffering from racism…I don’t think it’s such a terrible disadvantage to be black or Jewish today. But because they once were… they are still not comfortable enough with the new situation….They still can’t accept the fact that they are completely accepted everywhere… it’s all in their minds.’

Is it all in our minds???? Or has that is faced now changed?

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March 13, 2012

Patient Confidentiality Busted

Perhaps it’s a generation thing more than a cultural difference but at a recent gathering of friends and family at my home in Scotland the conversation lulled for a moment before my mum turned to an aunt and asked how her gallstones were.

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March 8, 2012

Ya Ya Sisterhood

My best friend and I describe our relationship as sisters but recently, I have wondered whether this truly describes how close we are. We seem to have placed a higher value on the relationship between sisters  and yet, I only hear sisters describe their closeness, should they so close,  as best friends. This role reversal seems to happen all around me.

 

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March 5, 2012

Super Commuters

An increasing number of Americans are willing to fly even 100 miles to get to work every day, most at their own expense as professional struggle to get employment.

Perception of distances and our tolerance of travel are open to change. 

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February 28, 2012

Would You Propose?

It’s a leap year and ever since its introduction some 2000 years ago, the 29th February has been associated with folklore and traditional customs, especially proposals.

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February 23, 2012

Au Revoir To Mademoiselle

The French have addressed feminism calls to abolish the term Mademoiselle from official documents as it is deemed sexist. Prime minister Francois Fillon said the word discriminates against women by asking them to reveal if they are married. He has also banned the phrase ‘nom de jeune fille’ meaning ‘maiden name’ from all paperwork because it is ‘archaic’ and has ‘connotations of virginity’.

It was a major victory for French feminists yesterday when the change was revealed in an official decree to ministries and regional authorities.

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January 26, 2012

Downton Abbey Wins

Last night Downton Abbey was crowned best drama at the National TV Awards.  I hardly watch tv at all but I am so so glad a friend recommended this period drama to me one Sunday.  It was an episode in the middle of series two but that didn’t matter, I became fond of the characters instantly and the fashion and interior design even more.

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January 24, 2012

Desperately Seeking

Oprah Winfrey caused a stir in India this week as she visited Mumbai, Agra and finally Jaipur for the literature festival.  As I checked to see what one of the USA’s most influential women has been up to since The Last Show I was intrigued by this enquiry on her website:

Are you a middle class woman in Mumbai?
 Are you a typical middle class  woman living in Mumbai who can you talk to us about what it is like to be a woman in India today?  Do you have an opinion about how women

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January 19, 2012

Birmingham In Top 20

Birmingham was voted one of the top 20 places in the world to visit in the world by the New York Times!!!

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January 9, 2012

Sober Up

Drinking alcohol is ingrained into British culture as much as having a cup of tea. We are known for our communities centring on pubs and it isn’t unusual to go for a quick drink before dinner or going home. Even modern Asian households have incorporated this part of British culture into their lives.

Amidst ministers calling for a review of the drinking guidelines to encourage people not drink at least 2 days out of 7, what I find fascinating is how we as a country have slipped into drinking wine like the French. It is on the dinner table and families are used to having a glass or two a night.

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January 5, 2012

End Of Christmas

Victorian tradition is to take down Christmas decorations on the 5th January. Today!

Apparently it is bad luck to leave them any longer than the twelfth night of Christmas.

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January 3, 2012

New Year’s Resolution

Do you believe in making New Year’s resolutions?

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November 28, 2011

60,000 Weddings and No Funerals

Today had been declared one of the most auspicious days to get married according to Hindu priests and their astrolological predictions so 60,000 weddings are taking place tonight in Delhi alone.

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November 21, 2011

Calling Mr Vain

A new report claimed that British men spend longer than British women on personal grooming, coming from a family full of vain men I could have told them that.  I can’t comment too much, I take ages … the words ‘quick’ and ‘shower’ do not ever go together.

Imagine that this survey was of British men, not traditinally known

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November 16, 2011

Shadows of Stereotypes

Dear Diary

I sometimes wonder if the stereotypical images of Asian women follow us everywhere and my encounter of this at work has caused some issues.

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November 2, 2011

Respect

Oxford Dictionary definition: a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements

Asian definition: Do as your elder tells you.

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November 1, 2011

Paunch-Erello

The paunch is a sign of wealth, health and prosperity in Asian culture. The larger the belly, the richer the man or woman. However, in India today, there is growing concern over obesity and diabetes among the growing middle class as gastric bands are being introduced to help people overcome their weight problems.

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October 31, 2011

Degas

Degas’s ballerina collection is currently being shown at the Royal Academy on Picadilly, which represents the most fun you can have for £15.

The collection has been assembled from all corners of the world, from museums and private contributors, and shows

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October 28, 2011

Chatterjis & Sons

News International recently faced the challenge that affects almost all family-owned businesses, albeit on a global scale, namely one of the future of the empire and how to deal with incompetent sons. 

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October 19, 2011

My Daughter

Dear Chatterjis,

I have read your posts and comments on gender discrimination with great interest and would like to share my story with you.

My daughter is three weeks old and has been totally rejected by her grandparents.

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October 12, 2011

Pushy Parents

“I don’t know what is wrong with her. She is so clingy when I am around and will not just go and enjoy the class. I try to do so much for her to give her the best. She goes to nursery full time from 8am to 5.30pm and on the weekends, she does ballet, piano lessons, Gujarati school and swimming” Mum of a three year old.

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October 10, 2011

Daughtergate Diaries

Dear Chatterboxes

Thanks to you we have reached over 20,000 views!

We have already received some wonderfully thought-provoking entries from you please keep them coming in. 

In a Dear Diary format please share your perspective from the view point of a daughter, mother, sister, wife, mother-in-law, entrepreneur…we wear so many hats in our lives. Send us your rants, frustrations, amusing reflections… get it off your chest and engage with your peers.

As always on this blog you can keep your entries anonymous and we will under no circumstances share your email address. 

Email your submissions to buntyandbubbly@thechatterjis.co.uk

Bunty &  Bubbly 

October 10, 2011

Forced Marriages

Forced marriages were on the agenda in British politics today under a new guise. To protect British borders.

Prime Minister, David Cameron, would like to see forced marriages criminalised despite the Home Secretary rejecting requests from pressure groups only a month ago.

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October 6, 2011

Child Adoption: Hollywood v Bollywood

David Cameron used his party speech to bring child adoption to the front of his agenda highlighting the woefully inadequate placement of children.  With children from ethnic minorities the figures are worse as an ethnic match is preferred but ethnic minority families seem more reluctant to put themselves forward. 

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October 5, 2011

Doggy Bag Please!

Are you too embarrassed to ask for a doggy bag for your left over food in a restaurant? A survey compiled by the Sustainable Restaurant Association revealed that at least 25% of us are to shy to ask for a doggy bag whereas our friends across the Atlantic regard doggy bags as a norm.

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October 4, 2011

The Etiquette Of Mourning

Dear Diary,

The last few weeks have been so sad. I have been surrounded by families mourning their loved ones and amongst it all observing cultural etiquettes from cast to cast.

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September 28, 2011

B4U Generation

Just as MTV transformed our access to Hip Hop, B4U has transformed our access to modern Bollywood music. But has it made the youth of today’s music interests’ one dimensional?

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September 27, 2011

0800 Calling India

A few years ago there was a craze for British and American companies to provide its customer service from Indian call centres. A plethora of centres opened to employ tens of thousands of people. It seems the novelty is over and the companies are rapidly moving their customer service back. So why have India’s call centres not worked for UK and American companies?

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September 20, 2011

Indian Food Comes Second to Chinese

A survey carried out by Waitrose Kitchen claimed that Chinese food has finally taken over Indian food as the most popular choice of take away.

  

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September 19, 2011

Pushing In

What is it about the Asian culture that refuses to participate in orderly queues? It seems like people lack patience to wait their turn.

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August 23, 2011

Cliques & Clans

Have we become more clique and clan like, more suspicious of others and more unwelcoming of new faces? Or are we just getting older and wiser and cannot be bothered to make idle chat with new people?

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August 23, 2011

Genie in a Bottle

I don’t smoke and I can count the number of smokers in my social circle in the UK on one hand.  The reverse is true in India: I can count the number of NON-smoking friends on one hand, I probably wouldn’t even need the hand to count.  Almost everyone I know in Delhi smokes and they are shocked every time I refuse a fag like they are trying to test me and most of them call me a good girl – are they calling me a geek?

One of my acquaintances in Delhi

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August 22, 2011

How To Be A Woman

I cannot remember the last time that I enjoyed a book so much (or had the time) that I read it in one day.  Enter “How to be a Woman” by Caitlin Moran.

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August 22, 2011

My Other Interests Include

Gap years could be going out of fashion as tuition fees rise and job prospects for graduates fall.  I went straight to uni from high school as did everyone else I knew from school and those I met at university.  Anyone who took a gap year was suspected of not getting in to university and needing to re-sit their exams.

I’m sure my mum wouldn’t have let me go on a gap year like the ones I heard of

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August 18, 2011

University Challenge

Today is the day when A-level students find out whether they have got a university place of their choice. UCAS are reporting that approximately 200,000 candidates will, once again, fail to secure a university place this year and with the introduction of university fees, it may mean that many will be left without further education.

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August 16, 2011

The Poppadom Posse

It’s summer and my mum is waiting for the hot days to arrive so that she can make her year’s supply of poppadoms. This dying tradition that my mother so duly carries out reminds me so much of youth.

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August 4, 2011

Disastrous Dates

After listening to a friend’s disastrous introduction marriage date, where her date spent the whole night complaining about living at home and suggested that if they got married they would be living with his parents, I was reminded of some of hideous dates that my family had organised for me.

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